Every couple for whom marriage is forever unearths nuggets of wisdom along the way.

In Love for a Lifetime: Daily Wisdom and Wit for a Long and Happy Marriage, columnist Mary Hance shares a wealth of golden tips, collected far and wide from young couples just setting out to those whose wedding vows still echo through half a century and more. Here are a few:

“Throw the word fair out the window. In one year of a marriage, one person may need 99 percent of the love, effort, or focus of the other; another year, it may be just the opposite.”

“What my father always told me when I was planning my wedding: ‘You have to want to have a marriage, not just a wedding. Remember the difference.’”

“Learn fast that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence!”

“After several years of marriage, there is no way I’m training another husband, so I will just keep the one I have!”